Hi, I'm Alex.
Hi, I'm Alex.
This wasn’t the plan. But it became my purpose.
From betrayal to clarity. From unraveling to reinvention.
When Life Goes Off Script
I didn't plan to become a divorce coach or mediator. I was a successful actor and comedian. I was the comic relief. I played the quirky best friend, the stressed-out mom, the woman who had it together on the outside while everything was quietly unraveling behind the scenes.
If only ending relationships were this simple...
Seemingly out of nowhere, my real life got messier than anything I had ever performed. I went through a divorce that rocked me. Not just emotionally, but existentially. The kind of betrayal that doesn't just end a marriage-it changes your DNA. I was blindsided, heartbroken, holding it together for my kids, and grieving the loss of the future I had assumed would be mine. All while wondering if I'd ever feel like myself again. Eventually, I did more than that. I became someone new.
“The kind of betrayal that doesn’t just end a marriage—it changes your DNA.”
From Breakdown to Breakthrough
I didn't just survive my divorce. I studied it. I examined every twist, every trigger, every "why the hell did I do that" moment. I found my way forward one choice at a time-until I realized I wanted to help other people do the same. I became a Certified Divorce Coach because I know what it's like to feel lost. I became a divorce mediator because I believe in clarity, fairness, and keeping people out of expensive, avoidable fights that solve nothing and cost everything. Today, I run AKA Divorce Consulting - a place where people come to get clear, get calm, and take back control of their lives, one grounded step at a time.
What I Actually Do
When divorce flips your life upside down—especially if you didn’t see it coming—figuring out what to do next can feel impossible. That’s where I come in. Whether you’re the out-spouse, the blindsided partner, or the parent barely holding it together, I help you get your feet back on the ground. As a divorce coach, I work one-on-one with individuals navigating the emotional, logistical, and relational chaos of divorce. As a mediator, I guide couples through difficult conversations so they can stay out of court and move forward with clarity.
As a divorce coach, I help you:
Untangle the emotional and logistical spaghetti of divorce
Make smart, informed choices—even when your brain is in survival mode
Show up for your kids when everything inside you is unraveling
Communicate with your ex (even when they feel like the actual devil… kidding. Kind of.)
As a mediator, I help couples:
Stay out of court by having structured, productive, guided conversations
Make decisions around parenting, property, and next steps without destroying each other
Negotiate an agreement you can live with without regret
Save time, money, and emotional energy
Discover what really matters for you and your family
Here’s the part no one talks about enough:
Divorce can take over your whole life. It’s all you want to talk about. What they did. What they’re doing. What you wish you’d said. Your friends start to run for cover, and you start to feel like “that friend who never stops talking about her divorce.”
Working with me means you have a space to unload all of it—without guilt, without shame, and without burning out your support system. I’ll hold that space so your people don’t have to. And I’ll help make sure this chapter doesn’t define you.
What it feels like to work with me
I’m not your therapist. I’m not your lawyer. And I’m not your best friend (though sometimes it might feel like I am). I’m your steady hand in the storm. Someone who helps you stay grounded, focused, and clear when everything around you feels upside down. I’ll be direct when you need it, gentle when it matters, and relentlessly on your side the whole way through. I’ll hold space for your grief and help you take the next brave steps forward.
I am…
⚓︎ Honest, without being harsh
⚓︎ Calm, even when you're spiraling
⚓︎ Warm, but not woo-woo
⚓︎ Strategic, but never stiff
Why I’m Good at This
I didn't just walk through the fire. I took notes.
…because I’ve been in your shoes. And I didn’t just walk through the fire. I took notes. I've been a professional actor for decades, with credits on shows like Seinfeld and The New Adventures of Old Christine, where I played funny, flawed women doing their best in messy situations. In real life, it turns out I'm just as interested in what people do when life goes sideways. My acting background taught me to listen for what's not being said. To read the room. To respond in real time, with empathy, presence, and just enough levity to keep things moving.
I also bring:
⚓︎ A certification from CDC® Certified Divorce Coaching
⚓︎ Divorce and family mediation training from Mosten Guthrie Academy
⚓︎ Hundreds of hours spent with people in crisis, helping them feel like they're not crazy-and not alone.
A bit of real life
I live in Southern California with my partner Ian, our wildly handsome dog Bruce (a Lab/Shar Pei mix with the energy of a caffeinated toddler), and our skeptical cat Cornelius (who clearly runs the household). My stepson Jack lives with us part-time, and my two daughters-now grown-still keep me on my toes and laughing. When I'm not coaching or mediating, you might find me:
⚓︎ Doing DIY projects at home
⚓︎ Organizing someone else's divorce binder (for fun-again, don't judge)
⚓︎ Working on a memoir about betrayal, reinvention, and the surprisingly redemptive power of getting your life blown up.
And fun fact-I'm the voice of the computer on Star Trek: Strange New Worlds.
Want to work together?
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You can get through this. I’m here to help.
If your life feels like a mess right now, that doesn't mean you are. You can get through this in a way you feel proud of. You can protect your kids, your finances, and your peace of mind. You can make decisions you'll stand by years from now-and feel proud of how you showed up.
If that sounds like what you need, I'm here. Book a free consult. Bring your questions, your fears, and your whole messy self. You're not alone. Let’s figure it out together.